Category Archives: Random Thoughts

HoneySugaSweet Musings: I’m Still Here!


Wow…it’s been quite some time since I’ve written a post!  Many things have happened PLUS I’ve been busy enjoying Summer 2010 :)  (I’m thoroughly glad the seasons will be changing soon.  I’ve never done hot weather well!) Let’s see, after 4 years in an extremely committed relationship, I am single.  My blogging hiatus has been a time for me to redefine and find “Jovette”.  I always had my own identity but I didn’t realize how interconnected my life had become with another.  The last 3 months I’ve focused on myself and rediscovering my loves, pet peeves, boundaries, and of course the Art of Dating! (More on the last item in a future post ;)

My blogging hiatus has also allowed me time to get out and about.  Let’s see-My travels this summer have included Blacksburg (Go Hokies!!), Philly (twice), Los Angeles (who knew it would be so cold in the summer?),New Orleans (God save the Gulf!), and lastly Atlanta (my new “music” city).  I have enjoyed all of the trips with Atlanta topping the list.  I attended the Soul Music Summit and fell in love with music all over again.  Though oddly enough I realize ATL may not be the place for me as so many have thought.  I’m an East coast girl through and through.  Give me the mid-Atlantic, BABY!!!  LOL!

I have to admit that I’ve turned into a writing slug. (YUCK!)  I’ve neglected my love and its time for us to get acquainted.  Look for new Triple “F” Threat post and the sordid details of my Summer 2010 Blind Date Challenge.  The stories will be colorful and hilarious and of course deliciously sweet!

All in all, this FIERCE! FLY! & FABULOUS! HoneySugaSweet chick is doing well.  As Jill Scott sings on her Beautifully Human album, “I’m still HERE!”

Fierce! Fly! & Fabulous! Post #7 The Words Will Come…


Its been a minute since I’ve posted anything about my Triple “F” Journey or any HoneySugaSweet Musings for that matter.  Many things have happened.  My life looks much different than I expected.  I’ve been taking time to get accustomed to my new “appearance”.  Many of my friends (Ms. Goldie especially!) have encouraged me to write.  God blessed with a flair for the creative so why not use it to tailor my new “life look” to fit my curves.  I hadn’t been hit by the desire or the words.  Finally those words came today.  I’m sure more words will come.  And in true Triple “F” manner, I will create something beautiful as the words continue to flow…

(Untitled)
By Jovette Gadson
*Do Not Copy Without Permission of Author*
 
 Where are you?
I’ve searched all over
And you still can’t be found
Not in a stranger’s smile
Not in my lover’s embrace
Not in my dreams
You’re lost
Everyone says stop searching
I refuse
I refuse such a foolish notion
You want to be found
I hear you
Your voice echoes through my soul
I feel you
Your fingertips stroke my ego
I smell you
Your scent lingers in my thoughts
I taste you
Your sweetness succulent like strawberries
I see you
Your image fading in memory
 
Where are you?
I’ve searched all over
And you still can’t be found
Not in a stranger’s eyes
Not in my former lover’s embrace
Not in my dreams
You’re lost
Everyone says you’re there
But
I am blind
I am blind to what is obvious
Obvious that you’re searching for me
Perhaps we have crossed paths
But when?
Perhaps we have stolen glances
But when?
Perhaps we have shared a laugh
But when?
When will you appear
Stand by my side
Be my soft place to land
Bring yourself to myself
So we can become ourselves
 
 Where are you?
I’ve searched all over
And you still can’t be found
Not in a stranger
Not in a lover
Not in my dreams
You’re lost
Everyone claims you’re near
I am waiting…

Thought of the Day: Can People’s Energy Block Opportunities?


Today’s thought is prompted by where I am at the moment…life wise.  I had a friend tell me that in addition to getting out of my own way, there may be a bit of negative energy (in the form of people) holding me back.  As soon as I let these people go, a whole slew of opportunities will open up to me.  Why?  Because I am so preoccupied with these folks that I’m not focusing on me and my potential.  The people aren’t literally blocking opportunities but my focus on them is.  As soon as I change focus I will begin to take and see chances like never before. 

So, is it possible that another’s vibe can block your chances for (insert any noun or emotion here)?

My answer: Yes.  Think about it.  If you are constantly fawning over someone else you can’t pay attention to yourself.  Its like that handyman that neglects his home because he’s out taking care of someone else’s.  And this is all by choice. 

Paying attention to yourself is not a bad thing.  This is still very hard for me to accept as I’m a giver.  My instincts lead me to help and provide for everyone from those who truly need it and to those who should never get at all.  Hey, not all people are well-intentioned and deserving.  It’s just a fact.  Success in anything means knowing how much to give and when to let go.  Who to give to and who to steer clear.  And most importantly, success (Not just financial & material.  This includes happiness and peace of mind) is knowing when and how to focus on yourself.  I struggle with this constantly but am committed to doing better to me.

It’s always good and healthy to evaluate relationships (personal, romantic, family, friendship, professional) and let go any that drain too much of your time and energy.  Those same relationships may be blocking/stalling something very good…